4 types of men a Muslim lady should run from and not marry.

There are so many things to consider when finding a spouse.

It is highly recommended to find someone who will add to your deen and work with you to reach jannah.

Below are 4 types of men a Muslim lady should run from when it comes to marriage.

If you find yourself liking any man in these categories, you can try to influence him and you will be rewarded for it but if you don’t see changes after series of motivation, you have to run. 

Running doesn’t mean you are perfect than, it only means you want to protect yourself from hell. 

Quran 17:15 "whoever chooses to follow the right path, follows it for his own good and whoever goes astray goes astray at his own peril; no bearer of burdens shall bear the burdens of another..”

Mr Haram: A non muslim man is unlawful for a Muslim woman but if one is interested in you,he has to willingly accept Islam before marriage. If he has not accepted Islam willingly,you can not marry him.

Quran 2:221 “... nor give believing women out in marriage to men who associate partners with Allah, till they have believed: a believing man is certainty better than a man who associates partners with Allah even though he may please you. Such Men call you to hell fire but Allah calls you to paradise and to forgiveness...”

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Mr Muslim by Name: A man who only has a Muslim name but do not practice the deen is not good for you e.g pray. 

You can motivate him but if he’s not willing to submit to Allah, you have to run so he doesn’t cause  you problems on the day of judgement.

Quran 18:28 “Keep yourself attached to those who call on their lord morning and evening, seeking His pleasure and do not let your eyes turn away from them....”

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Mr player: A man who doesn’t like to hear about your wali or parents is not ready to marry you but have you as a girlfriend. 

Islam teaches that men should come through the door and not the window so if a man doesn’t want to get in touch with your wali, he is not taking you seriously. 

The only reason a man should be meeting a woman in Islam is only for the purpose of marriage so you have to reject haram relationship from the beginning.

Quran 5:5”....And Marry them, neither committing fornication not taking them as mistresses. The deeds of anyone who rejects the faith will come to nothing and in hell,he will be among the losers”

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Mr pressure: A man who’s always trying to compromise your deen by pushing you into doing things that’s displeasing to Allah commands is not good for you.  Those kind of men tell you stuff like “But I will marry you so let’s  just start having sex or I don’t like it when you wear hijab loosen up”etc 

You can educate him but if he tells you he can’t be in a relationship with you in a lawful manner or support you into doing this that’s necessary as a Muslim female, you have to run. 

Quran 5:2 “...Help one anther in goodness and in piety. Do not help one another in sin and transgressor. Fear Allah! Allah is severe in punishment”

Quran 24:26 “Corrupt men are for corrupt w

women and corrupt women and for corrupt men. Good women are for good men and good men are for good women...”

Sallam Alaikum waramotullah wabarakatu 

Your sister,

Bintmukthar